Social Media Rules Every Parent Should Be Aware of

From announcing his birth to his first day of school to his first ever Halloween costume party, you have plenty of reasons to post about your child online. While sharing photos of your little one is easy, what you share on your social media could affect your kid’s safety and relationship with you. Here are some expert advices about what should parents keep in mind before hitting ‘post’ of their next update.


1.       Consider the Feelings of Others

A simple birthday snapshot could be hurtful to kids (and parent) who were not invited in the party. Instead of sharing in the social media, email pictures directly to friends and family or create a private group or Facebook album that can only be viewed by the invited guests.

2.       Keep Rants to Yourself

Sorry to break it to you, but the internet is not the best place to blow off steam about how tough parenting days. While a cute tantrum snapshot of your little one is probably okay, too many details about your kid’s bad behaviour can be embarrassing not just for your kid but also for you as the parent. Avoid posting details that you are not comfortable saying in front of your child or having your child read in the future.

3.       Secure Your Privacy Setting

There have been so many instances wherein photos of children are taken from social media and used on pornography sites, and details posted publicly are used by predators targeting children. If you opt to upload photos of your child every once in a while, make sure to have an airtight privacy settings. Limit your audience, and make sure to check on this setting regularly. It doesn’t mean that the post is never going to be out in public, but it’s much more secure than blatantly posting it out there without filter.


4.       Get Other Parent’s Approval

Be extra cautious when posting photos of other people’s children. If you would like to post a picture of your child with his friend, ask for the approval of the child’s parents to share the photo in your social media. Many parents are quite sensitive with their child’s privacy, so make sure not to cross the line by over-sharing.

5.       Be a Good Role Model

Older kids pay attention to what older people do, including sharing information online. Think twice before posting that angry post and try to resolve issues in person. Do not get into fights with parents of your kid’s friend or classmate online. Parents should be good examples to their kids and should encourage them to use social media in a positive and productive way.

The technology, social media and the internet are all great tools for sharing and soliciting information. However, sharing everything about your children can jeopardize their privacy and safety. Keep your kids safe from ill-reputed people by being careful with what you share online.


What Not to Say to Someone with Anxiety

People with anxiety disorder often experience worry even in normal scenarios or situations that does not normally cause intense feelings. For these people, anxiety attacks can happen anytime, anywhere.


Unfortunately, anxiety disorder is often misunderstood by those who do not have the,. As if the sweaty palms, racing heart, dizziness and inner turmoil are not bad enough, many people with anxiety disorders also endure well-intentioned but insensitive comments from people who do not understand their condition. To clear up the confusion, here are the most common things often said to someone with anxiety but should not.

1.       “Calm down.”

This advice can be invalidating. You are telling the person to do something that’s impossible for him to do. If it’s easy for him to calm down, for sure would; but it’s not, so it only makes him feel even more anxious and frustrated. The person with anxiety will force himself to calm down, but fail to do so, leading to feeling of guilt and sadness.

2.       “Don’t worry too much. Nothing bad will happen.”

Someone with anxiety tend to focus on worst-case scenarios. It’s easy to reassure them that their fears won’t come to life, but these words of encouragement have opposite effects, too. So, instead of saying “Don’t worry,” say something like, “If something bad happens, it’s not going to feel good, but you’ll be able to get through it.”

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3.       “It’s all in your head.”

Yes, anxiety is caused by problems that only exist in a person’s head. However, focusing on that fact alone puts a person with anxiety in a state of confusion where they doubt their feelings. Instead, help your loved one get through the activity that worries them by doing it with them or engage them in an activity they enjoy doing.

4.       “So, when are you going to see a specialist?”

There’s nothing wrong with suggesting to someone with anxiety to go see a specialist, if you really think they need one. However, do not be too pushy about it. Therapies can be mentally and emotionally invasive and it’s important that the person only begin doing so when they are totally ready.

5.       “It’s part of growth. You’ll get through it.”

You might feel the urge to burst this out when trying to comfort someone such as a teenager or young adult. Sure, some anxiety attacks are influenced by external factors and are part of growth and development, but there’s also due to genetics, medical condition and natural chemistry of the brain. Do not assume you know better. Even trained professionals spend years figuring out exactly the cause of one’s anxiety.

Keep in mind that a person with anxiety disorder will likely analyze things differently, so be careful with your words; and when in doubt, always choose compassion.


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