Dealing with a Regretful Career

Regretfully a lot of people maximize their time way too much on things they later realize are of utmost unimportance which leads them to regret. Not everybody does what they want. Some people end up realizing that they’ve wanted something else all along but then it is a bit too late for that.

How do you deal with regrets?
Memories are tricky, they can be altered and distorted depending on the mood we are in when we try to dive into them. Regret is like broken glasses, you won’t be able to see things the way they actually are. People from all walks of life share this same sentiment at least once in their lives. Regret is such a powerful anchor, it drowns us into the sea of memories while altering them at the same time.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself when you are feeling regretful about your career:

1. Which part do I regret?
Be as specific as possible. There can be no more than three major regrets you can name. Don’t make a list, be frank with yourself and blurt out the three things you regret. It would be unfair to say that you regret everything you’ve done. This would be a totally bias deduction based on your emotions you are experiencing at present instead of how things actually are.

2. Why do I regret it?
Why do you regret those three things? Explain yourself. Here’s the catch, you aren’t allowed to pinpoint the mistake at other people. The only person in the picture should be yourself. Make sure to let it all out.
Okay, you’ve allowed yourself a release, this is necessary in dealing with any problem you’ve experienced and regret is not different at all. Letting out how you feel makes it lighter and easier for you to see things. If you’re wearing a hat, there would be no way for you to see it unless you take it off. But hey, you shouldn’t be stuck here. Let’s move on.

Here’s what you have to do next:

1. Look at everything as a whole
A situation is just a situation. Your career status is just a status. How it makes you feel is a hundred percent up to you. Your reaction to the situation is a hundred percent in your hands.

2. Look at your achievements
You can’t forget the good you’ve done. Whether big or small compared to others, it isn’t about them. It is a hundred percent up to you. Look at the achievements you’ve done over your career and ponder on them.

Don’t allow yourself to react to what others say. Do not put your contentment in their hands. Make yourself feel how you want to feel.